What I Learned from George Costanza (Win a Bunch of Books and a Hat!)

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I’ve had a few weeks off since finishing my August book, and I’m enjoying it. Back in January I was having trouble connecting with my writing. I though it was probably because we had a death in the family on top of the after-holiday rush, the cold, being tired, and a host of things that made writing in January difficult. Either way, I finished the book ahead of time anyway, did the revisions, and I think it turned out great. Still, there’s no denying that I had to force myself through the writing every day, a feeling I read recently on another loop that felt something like having your teeth pulled out through your nose. Good description. I know we all feel this way time and again, but as I’m starting a new book, I'm starting to feel the slow, creeping dread of having to write it. This causes me some concern – what’s going on? I love writing – I love writing Blaze, so what’s the deal?

I think it’s a form of White Line Fever – you know, when you drive the same route all the time, or you’re on a long road trip, and you start phasing out, sort of forgetting where you are? Road hypnosis. Just like being on that long road, I have been writing Blaze after Blaze (coming up on #9 & 10, and that doesn’t include the ones passed on) for three years. I love writing Blaze, but I need a way to freshen my process.

gc So what does this have to do with what I learned from George Costanza (great pic, no? LOL) on Seinfeld? As I face writing the next book with something akin to dread, I decided to do as George decided to do once: I am going to do the opposite. Remember that episode where he went against every natural impulse he had and his life took a huge turn for the better? I'm applying that lesson to my writing process. I'm doing the opposite.

By nature, I am a linear writer – I start at the start, and work my way through 5-10 pages (sometimes 2-5 pages) at a time, and I polish as I go. If it’s not right, I stop and I don’t go forward until it is right. Maybe it's time for a change.

I’ve been clued into a fast-drafting method (called, no surprise, Fast Draft) which Candace Haven created, but which was recommended to me by the amazing Charlene Teglia. Charli is great, and no one can argue her success in writing -- she's also one of the most cheerful, energetic people I've gotten to know through blogging and email, so I'm throwing my hat in the ring and joining her in a Fast Draft writing binge in March.

Fast Draft is a hell-bent, 20+ pages a day, no holds barred, shut off the censor, non-linear, do what you have to, no-editing or polishing writing method – the exact opposite of what I normally do. If all goes well, I should finish a full draft of my Blaze in just a few weeks, less than three, and then I have all of April to tinker. Sounds perfect, since I tend to like revising much more than initial writing. I’ll let you know how it’s going as I blog throughout March. Maybe Charli will drop by and let us know how she's doing. Join in if you want and let me know how it works for you. :) I'm very curious how this will change not only how I write, but the story itself, and how I feel about my writing. I wonder if I'll be able to do it, since it's so different than how I usually work.

Have any of you ever done anything this completely against your nature? Doesn’t have to be writing, it can be anything, but have you, like me and George Costanza, ever decided to purposefully “do the opposite”? How did it work out? Tell me, and you could win a bunch of books and a hat. ;)

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not really i have not.

not really i have not.

Doing the Opposite

When my daughter was in her sophomore year of high school she rebelled by doing hardly any schoolwork. Her grades went down and she was punished. However, the more I punished her the worse her grades were. When she was about to start her junior year I decided to start fresh. I wouldn't punish her for past grades if she started getting good grades and it worked. Her grades have been fine since.

Resistance is futile? LOL

It's all about control and resistance, isn't it? Not to say we can ever give that up, and those things serve us sometimes, but there are other times to let them go. Same in writing, I think.

Sam

Doing the Opposite

Yep. In mothering. I've gone completely against what I felt was "right" and really listened to my inner self and done the exact opposite and it was the right thing to do after all. The Child loves to argue. If you say the sky is blue, he'll try to convince you it's pink. This used to really tick me off. Any sane human being could see the sky was blue. But when I stopped arguing my (right) side, and just let him blather on, he'd eventually start laughing because he realized how ridiculous he was being. It sounds simple but the more I'd argue with him the deeper he'd dig in his heels and I'd dig in mine also. Now we can laugh about things and we don't argue near as much. But I was trying so hard to show him the "right" way that neither of us was happy. ani

So true, Ani

Applies to all kinds of relationships -- a friend of mine got into a spat with her boyfriend over a silly little thing (not an important argument, but you know the kind that can ruin a weekend if you don't let it go?) and she said she remembered a Dr. Phil moment where he asked someone "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?"

It's a good question to keep in mind, I think. :)

Sam

Dr Phil

I had never heard that before, "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy" but that's very true. I'd much rather be happy! ani

It's always good to shake things up!

Fast Draft is fun. *g* But I also like to switch up what I'm writing, do something different, something not even for publication but just for fun from time to time. It's so easy to take it all too seriously, turn it all into WORK, and the creative mind liks to play. And the child resistance thing is so true. I have a very strong-minded toddler who will make everything a battle if I let it happen, and that's no way to live. We decided early on that if it was a safety or health issue, we'd be inflexible. Otherwise? Probably not worth our time and energy to fight about.

Hey Charli :)

I wish I'd had that wisdom when I was raising my own son -- he was as hard-headed as they come (and so can I be -- not a good combination lots of the time).

Anyway -- I just realized the revisions I did yesterday were kind of a fast-draft thing. Of the 60 pages I rewrote, about 35 were completely new writing, which is a stunning amount of writing for me to have done in one day, and I even felt good doing it.

So, now today I am sifting back through it, changing and layering things in, and I guess that's how the Fast Draft thing works, basically, except that you'd keep plowing forward...

Sam

I tried to stop eating after

I tried to stop eating after 7.30 in the evening a while ago. Totally against my nature. It didn't work out though Maria

I tried the fast draft but I

I tried the fast draft but I couldn't make it work for me. I'm way too particular, it's a fault

Doing the Opposite

Oh, yes. In elementary school I used to be this shy, quiet and bullied person. It stopped for a while on 7th grade, but then it started again, but this time I either treated the bullies like air or told the more persistent ones exactly where they could go. And yes, it did work, because they eventually stopped bullying and left me alone.

Yes, I Have

Right before I turned 30 my biological clock started ticking. I was actually starting to wonder if I would ever meet Mr. Right. Up until then I was totally opposed to blind dates because of horror stories I heard. I actually made myself open to the idea and allowed myself to be "fixed up". Even though the dates were unsuccessful in helping me meet Mr. Right I can't regret it because when I did finally meet my hubby I was able to appreciate him all the more.

woo hoo!

This is great! What a super example. I think it's brave to do the opposite in cases like this, because you really are giving it your all, and who knows if it will pay off? I think a lot of people feel that way when they join the online dating svcs, etc. A lot of those chances pay off... Glad you found Mr. Right. ;)

Sam

OPPOSITE

I enjoy giving friends and family members gifts when it is not a special occasion. When I met my future daughter-in-law I bent over backwards for her and was kind and thoughtful with favors and gifts of all types. She was appreciative but when she behaved in a thoughtless manner when she was married I cut her off. That isn't my way, so I gave her another chance but it wasn't acceptable to me so I acted the exact opposite from my norm which is hard for me but I decided it is the only way to be from now on.

OPPOSITE

The norm for me is to wake early and then go workout. I have decided to sleep in each day now and workout later. Maybe it will provide me with extra energy later on since I am tired by early evening. Hope so with this schedule change.

I agree. I work out in late

I agree. I work out in late morning, too -- I used to try to get up and work out at 6am, and I was miserable. I am not an early morning person, at least not for exercise. Need to get my wits about me first... However, I can't work out at night, or I can't sleep.

Sam

OPPOSITE

I read in a journal recently that a woman who went on a diet started her day off with supper instead of breakfast. She ate supper in the morning when she woke and breakfast at night. It worked well for her and she is successful in her weight loss efforts. I will copy that as it sounds worthwhile and interesting to try.

This one wouldn't work for

This one wouldn't work for me -- breakfast food seems fine for dinner, I've had pancakes for dinner many times, etc -- but if I had to face something like pasta or pizza for breakfast, that idea kinda makes my stomach turn. On the other hand, it also makes sense -- you pack in your calories at the start of the day, get the energy boost, and then have all day to work them off, and maybe you eat less. Of course, if you still have a regular lunch or dinner, then that's a problem right? You really have to cut back for the rest of the day...

Sam

Against My Nature

Normally I think people could say hi to me first just as well as me being able to say hi first. It bugged me so much to go into our one and only local grocery store and not get a hi after having shopped there for 11 yrs. I then decided I was going to say hi and see what happened. I now say hi right off the bat and ask how the clerk is doing sometimes. I get a response most of the time. It goes against my better judgement of thinking that I am the customer and am going into their establishment therefore they should be the ones saying hi first. But it doesn't work that way and so I have decided to go against my way of thinking and be the initiator.

CHANGES

I am not the type to walk up to people and just start speaking to them, either in the shops or at the gym. But there are many who do that and I admire them. No one seems to mind and they just do it naturally. So I decided that instead of never having this happen I would speak to individuals at the gym that I never met, or even while shopping at the grocery or department store. It actually worked out well and seems like the most natural type of behavior. Striking up a brief conversation and smiling at the person boosts their spririts for the day.

Great example!

Buddy and Guido -- I think it's true that taking a chance like this can brighten other people's days as much as our own. Sometimes doing the opposite really does pay off. :)

Sam

Wow..I've been thinking and

Wow..I've been thinking and realize I'm definitely a creature of habit. I don't change what I do often. The only think that came to mind is when I was stuck on reading only historicals. I wouldn't read any other type of book. My friend kept pushing me to read one of her contemporary favorites and I did. I loved it and now I read all genres. One other thing is exercising...it is completely against my nature and I don't like it at all. lol But...I do it because I feel better and my legs don't ache.

Fast Draft

Sam, this is pretty funny to me as this is kind of the way I write all the time. Before I start a book, I take a deep breath, then I dive in and I try to write between 5000 and 7000 words a day. I can get a Blaze done in about two weeks then. It's full immersion, I-have-no-life, walking into walls kind of writing, but it's the way I've always done it. I feel like this way I really get in the zone. Maybe it's a hang over from my tv days, where we plot and think about the show all the time. God, even dream in character sometimes! It's the way I read, too, when I really love something - I just binge on it. The only thing that stops me is a) life getting in the way. b) when I realise I need to nut something out in my character's emotional journeys. And I don't have a massive redrafting process - I'm a real first draft writer, I guess. As you know, I tried to work on a more mainstream book earlier this year, which seemed to call for a different way of writing... and I ended up feeling like my head was gonna explode. So, I don't know. Maybe my way is just my way. If it ain't broke, don't fix it, right? Can't wait to see how Fast Drafting goes for you.

Sarah, really? All the time

Sarah, really? All the time we have chatted, and I didn't know that -- I love your books, and I think you have a point about immersion. I've been living my para revisions this week, and it's in my head constantly.

I don't know if I would have to do massive redrafting or not, not having done it before. I did have to do a pretty big rewrite on the first 25 pages or so of the para, but after that it was more polishing and layering, and moving scenes around, adding and dropping a few. But I like that work, so it's okay. Once the book is handed in, I don't have much revision or edits, but I tend to think if I do the fast draft thing I will need to work on it for a few more weeks to really get it in that kind of shape... maybe not, tho -- Wouldn't that be nice?? :) If I could write a polished book in a month, which may be possible with this method, that would be da bomb...

On the mainstream thing, yes -- one of the things I'm noticing in my para rewrite is that I think having a ver detailed story board did help me get through the plot and the first draft -- however, it also killed a lot of the spontaneity and life in my writing, which I am revising back in. So I don't think I would go that planning route again -- I don't know. At least it got me through the first draft so I have enough to go back and work with now. Hmmm. But writing against your voice is never good -- funny how we all have lessons about that. ;)

Sam

Doing the opposite

I wish I could say I wasn't a creature of habit, but sadly I am. My day is mapped out from the time I get up in the morning--even the time is the same every morning--to when I come home from work. About the only thing i've stopped doing, and I shouldn't have been doing it anyway, was playing on the computer at work. I used to sneak on the computer to check my email when my boss would leave the room, when i'd go to the receptionists desk so she could go to lunch and when I came back from lunch. Yes i'm an email junky, even if I have no email I still feel a compulsion to look. But i've changed, I now only check my mail at lunchtime--no more inbetween binges for me,lol. I also used to sneak in a few pages of my book when he'd leave the room, but now I only read on break and lunch.

I feel your pain, Sam! I've

I feel your pain, Sam! I've done the same thing in my writing. Last November I did NaNoWrimo for the first time. Initially, I was reluctant and thought 'No way'! But being a risk taker, I gave it a try. Man, I loved it. I doubted myself that I would actually complete 50,000 words in 30 days but I did it! The hardest part for me was to not go back and edit for 30 days. You have to literally shut your internal editor off for the set amount of time. It was worth it! It sounds familiar to what you are doing, except for the time frame. I don't know for sure but I do believe that you have to allow yourself to write crap sometimes to get to the gold. When you go back, there is glimmer to be discovered. I think by at least trying to go against the norm....you will learn something! Wishing you the best, and also whoever else who has or is struggling with their writing endeaver! Dawn

Thanks Dawn

Yes, just the time frame is different, though if I actually do end up with a complete draft in 2 weeks you will hear me making some major WOO HOOS here, because that means I could take a week off if not 30 days to relax and go back to it to edit. That would be awesome.

I really like editing and revising -- I'm much, much more comfortable working on something that's already written than in creating that first draft, though feedback is also a big part of that. I think sometimes when you have spent two weeks that close to something, you may need someone else to tell you what you did, LOL. I really enjoy receiving good feedback, and I've been fortunate recently to find some really great writers to offer me that. It makes all the difference in the world...

Sam

I have faith that we will

I have faith that we will all be hearing you, WOOHOO! You can do it! Dawn

I am definitely a creature

I am definitely a creature of habit. It took me forever to get around to the idea of watching and enjoying paranormal tv shows. A friend got me started on Buffy and then I was a paranormal freak!

Oh Boy!

Oh Boy Sam! What a question. My nature is to open my mouth and say exactly what I think. Recently I tried to keep my mouth shut, even when people really anoy me. It went against my nature but, I found that basically, people will eventually realize, how anoying they really are. Keeping my mouth shut also helped me to realize, how anoying I could be, when I spoke my mind. I think I'll try to keep my mouth shut more often. It will be fun to watch everyone who knows me, do double takes, wondering where Mads went. By the way, that picture of George gave me one heck of a belly laugh. My sides still hurt. Thank You. As for your writing, I'm confident that you will do just fine with whatever you decide to do. I've told you before but, I will repeat myself. Each one of your books gets better and better. I've seen the way your writing is growing with each book that you write. You're doing a great job. Hang in there and, I'm sure this one will be the best one yet. Sending lots of support and understanding your way. Mads:)

Thanks Mads!

You're always such a supportive spirit, and I appreciate it. How's your own writing going?

You and I have that keeping our mouth shut thing in common, LOL -- I have to go against my nature on that one, too, but I have definitely found at times it is MUCH better to be quiet than to say something. Great example!

Sam

I don't often go against my

I don't often go against my nature unless it's to really help someone out. ANd that picture is hilarious and gross at the same time

The Winner is...

Traveler!

You've won my stack of signed books and a Samantha Hunter baseball cap. Email me at samhunter@samanthahunter.com with your info to get your goodies. Congrats!!

Sam

Congratulations!!

Woo Hoo, Traveler!! ani

Congrats

Congratulations Traveler! Enjoy your books and baseball hat. Mads:)