A fond farewell...

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Well, this is a hard blog to write. Back in November, I sat down to take stock of my life and decided I didn't want to have another year like 2007. I took on too much - working full time whilst still writing four books and numerous freelance scripts - and had numerous occasions where I was crying thanks to stress.

Even in Europe, I had moments of despair when my latest book hit a snag and I realised I needed more time to work on it to get it to a point where I would be happy having people read it. In fact, I actually threw out the whole storyline and started from scratch, something I've never done before. Anyway, I digress. I'm sure you get the picture: me, stressed, over-committed.

Projecting forward into 2008, I decided I didn't want to live like that again. I don't like it, and I suddenly realised I don't have to accept that level of stress in my life. I'm self-employed. I'm the one who orders my day. So...I sat down and started trying to work out how to simplfy my life. It helps that we're moving to New Zealand early in the new year. A lot less distractions there, and a lot less temptation for me to be lured back in-house on a soap to "help out". But there are other things that I decided I wasn't giving my full worth to - and Cigars is one of those things. I spoke to Sam and the other Cigars ladies about it, and decided to bow out.

Please believe me when I tell you this was a very hard decision to make. I was in on the ground floor of getting this little baby off the launch pad, and I've been thrilled to be involved with everyone I've met through the site. It's lovely talking to people who share the same passions - romance! food! shoes! - and it's been fun coming up with discussion topics. But I also want to spend more time making my books better and living my life. Consequently, I will no longer be a regular blogger here at Cigars. Sam, Tawny, Karen and Karen and Shirley and Lisa have all been great about inviting me back to play as a guest blogger, and I will definitely avail myself of that invitation. But in the meantime, I'm going to suck up some down time. A huge, big thanks to everyone who has shared with me over the past year. It's been lovely.

For those of you keen to keep up to date with what's happening with me and my writing, I have made a new year's resolution to keep my website more up to date with new release information and the occasional update as to where my crazy, gypsy life is at. Please drop by at www.sarahmayberryauthor.com whenever you're curious.

In recognition of this, my last post, I'm going to do a grand bonanza give-away. Three lucky posters will receive three of my books - their choice - or a promise of three of my future books as they arrive if you have all my current reads. You'll have to be patient with me while I move countries and get access to my stockpile of books again, but the books will come, I promise you! So, for now, thank you, and goodbye, and I hope the coming year brings much love, luck and laughter to you all.

Good Luck!! I will keep my

Good Luck!! I will keep my fingers crossed that the extra time will bring you some stress relief. Don't be like me and give up one thing only to take on two more!!LOL I will look forward to your guest blogs....Have a Happy New Year!!!!!!

Kendra

Thanks Kendra

Don't worry, I am on careful watch to make sure I don't replace one thing with another. 2008 is the year of the Single Title, if it kills me, so I will be begging, borrowing and stealing time to work on my books if I have to. Thanks for your good thoughts. Take care.

Sniff

I'm sad... and am going to miss you here, Sarah!!! But de-stressing is definitely priority, as is staying sane (or some semblance of sane *g*)

Hugs!!!!

Hugs back at you, Tawny

If there's one thing I find frustrating about the internet, it's making great friends with people but being unable to hear their voices, see them, and hug them!!! Thanks for all the fun times, Tawny. I'll be staying in touch via comments and reading your books, don't worry!

awwww...sending you wishes

awwww...sending you wishes for a new year filled with lots of love, no stress and writing that comes easy to you. You'll be missed, but it's important that you take care of yourself and your family first. I hope life in New Zealand is what dreams are made of.

Thank you

Thanks Kim. I'm looking forward to moving into our new home (when we fine one!) and getting settled. Despite our gypsy life, I'm just a big old homebody at heart. All the best for the year ahead to you, too.

Nooooooooooo.....

Ahem. Sorry, Sarah! I got a little carried away ;)

I'm a little sad that you won't be posting regularly in the coming year (since you're the one who lured me to this wonderful group to begin with), but it sounds like a very wise decision for you, and since it means you'll be able to be more devoted to the other things in your life like writing, we readers totally win :)

Very best wishes for everything that you've got going on, especially your upcoming move and your upcoming book(s)!

I'll definitely be swinging by your site to get the Sarah-scoop in the new year. And thanks for setting an example of knowing when to sometimes say no, even when it's a hard thing to do ;)

Wonderful things are coming your way in 2008!

Ah, Fedora....

Thanks for making me laugh. Much needed at present. I have four books out next year - so you'll be hearing from me via the bookshelves or via guest blogs or updates on my own site. Take care of you and yours - hope 2008 is a good one.

You shall be missed...best

You shall be missed...best of luck in all that you do. I will continue to visit your website and keep up with your releases!

Big hugs!!!

Thanks Jennifer

This is why leaving Cigars was such a tough decision - chatting to you ladies has been so much fun, and often very touching. Thanks for sharing through the year. All the best to you for the coming year, too.

I'm sorry to see you go but

I'm sorry to see you go but sometimes you just have to let some things go. Stress can be a terrible thing and I think we all have had it more or less and totally understand. I wish you the best of luck!!!

stress...

...Should be a four letter word. Although, as my man points out, there are lots of good four letter words, like love and cake,so maybe stress needs to be in a category all of its own. I hope 2008 is a great year for you, and thanks for your good thoughts.

Going to miss you

I am sad that you want be a regular poster here any longer, but the reasons are completely understandable. Looking forward to read your guest blogs.

I hope that 2008 will be a stress-free year for you. Keep my fingers crossed that everything works out as you want it

Hugs!

Thank you!

How am I supposed to read all these lovely posts without fiercely regretting my decision? This could be the shortest retirement in history... Thanks for your lovely thoughts, Danny. Look after yourself in the coming year.

Best Wishes

Sarah, I love you and I love your books. I will miss you very much, and I hope that this New Year brings you some peace and relief from all the stress. I enjoyed getting to know you through the cigars blog and I hope to see you back here as a guest, whenever you have the time. Best of luck with your move, and my good wishes are with you always. All the best, Mads:(

Mads....

...life won't be the same without our web-chats. Thanks so much for sharing with us all. And thanks for all the support and good wishes. I hope you and all your "boys" have a happy, productive, fun-filled year.

You'll be missed

Much as we'll miss your regular posts, it's important to take care of yourself. Will look forward to your guest posts and will definitely make your web site a regular stop.

Ta, Cheryl

Glad that everyone understands why this had to happen (ie for me to retain what's left of my sanity). It will be lovely to come back and have the occasional catch up with everyone. Take care in 2008!

You'll Be Missed

Sarah, I wish you all the best with your new endeavors, and hope you're able to strike a nice balance between work and your personal life. You're doing this for all the right reasons, although I won't deny I'm going to miss you here at Cigars...please stay in touch!

Cheers, Karen

I hope I can find that balance, too. It's going to be a tough one. I also need to start taking better care of my health. One of the first things out the window when I am stressed is eating properly, and I am going to eat myself up a dress size and into an early grave if I don't start walking more and eating less rubbish. But there's a great organic food shop near where we plan to live in Auckland, and I got some fantastic Italian cook books for Christmas, so spending more time cooking (which I love when I have time) is big on the agenda for next year. Best of luck with your writing - and you will be hearing from me!

I'll miss your posts!

I'll miss your posts! Sometimes you just have to do things like this. I hope the new year brings you less stress.

Thanks!

I hope the new year brings less stress, too. Wouldn't be hard right now, let me tell you! But I keep telling myself that this time next month I will be all cosy in my new house, with a bunch of new books ready to write for the year, and that seems to help alot. Have a great 2008, Stacy.

No fair...

making me sob over morning coffee....

I just want to say you have an open invite not just as a guest blogger, but to come back anytime -- you know that, so if you say the word, you're back. :) After all, you even named the place. ;>

I mean, Karen F has to mess with the schedule so it's easy for me to say, right? LOL

I know how hard it can be, and I sit in the same place every day and felt like 2007 was stressful, so I can only imagine how you managed. I think getting control of things and taking downtime will be a good thing, and I know we'll all see really good books come out of it.

So, you take care Sarah, and just don't think this means you're not expected to come around here and visit... I'll nag you. You know I will. ;>

big hugs
Sam

Big thanks to you, Sam

Without you, this website would never have existed. You're a real doer, and thank you for thinking of me when you started dreaming of this blog site. I don't think anyone realises how much time Sam and her husband put into maintaining and upgrading the Cigars site. Just keeping the guest writers organised and walking them through the log-on process is exhausting, I imagine, so, for the record, here's a big thanks to you both for your time, your passion, your creativity and your drive. Cigars is what it is because of you both.It has been a fantastic experience being involved with so many great writers, not the least of which is yourself, Sammas. You know you won't get a chance to miss me too much(!!), so be careful what you wish for! Have a great new years!

Aw...love fest time. ;)

I feel the same way back -- this website definitely wouldn't exist without you and the other authors who share all of your time and creative energy here. It's a joy, really.

I'll miss you around here, Sarah, no matter what you say *G* but I also want you doing what's best for you. Good thing we'll still be in touch otherwise or I'd really be bawling!

Sam

Till next time :)

This was a really sad post to read, but also heart-warming, because it seems you have gotten your priorities sorted and maybe a fresh start is on the way!!

And guest blogging is always nice :)

Guest blogging

I'm looking forward to the occasion drop in as a guest blogger, too. And I do so hope the fresh start is in the offing - I feel like a need a bit of a revolution to shock myself back into a productive, healthy routine. All the best for 2008, Nathalie.

Good luck!

I hope 2008 is less stressful for you. I will look forward to seeing your guest posts. I will make sure to check your website to see what your up to. I hope your move goes well.

Thanks, Maureen

I have become an expert mover over the years, but I also think I am becoming a little less resilient with each bout with packing cartons and tape. But as we have left half our stuff in storage, hopefully this move won't be as onerous as the last. Having to sort through all our belongings in the storage company's warehouse, surrounding by big crates full of other people's stuff was a definite highlight of the last month (not!). It was a 40 degree day (very hot!) and a truck driver delivered a dumpster bin half way through the process and it came accessorised with a swarm of horrible little flies. Chris and I were beseiged by the little buggers for a full hour as we tried to work out what was staying in storage and what was coming with us to NZ. Never. Again. I hope! Best wishes for the coming year.

Sad to see you go!

It was really an emotional post, I almost had some tears building up.

Hope this new year brings you a bit more of relaxation!! and I guess we will be still seeing you her!!

Thanks, Lily

It was a hard post to write. I agonised over how to present my decision, but in the end humble truth won out. Everyone has been so understanding. I know stress is something we all deal with on a daily, weekly, monthly basis, and I am in the fortunate position of being able tailor my workload a little, so I know I am actually very, very fortunate. Look forward to chatting via Cigars in the future. Best wishes!

An important addendum!!

I just realised that I didn't specifically explain how important it is to me as a writer - and, I'm sure, to my fellow Cigar's writers - that we hear from readers. Writing is a very solitary pasttime. Just you and the computer screen. You never know if your words are connecting, or resonating, or making someone laugh or cry. It's your fondest wish to make someone feel, to take them on a journey, but you never know if you've succeeded. Every contact from a reader is like a ray of light (at least, it is for me), and affirmation that I'm on the right track. So thank you all for taking the time to read and to let us all know that it meant something to you. And thank you for taking the time to share your lives with me via the site - it's been so much fun! And infinitely rewarding.

Thanks Sarah

Couldn't have said it better. I think one of the most crucial things about blogs is not just how they allow us to talk to each other and to readers, but how it helps us stay connected as we sit here working away by ourselves...absolutely affirmation and we need it, because writing is so damned tough, and lonely, a good part of the time. Many times a reader's comment about one of our books that is written is what gives us the boost we need to keep on going on a bad day...

It's so good and comforting and fun to come here and chat with familiar friends and new ones, too. And God knows, I've learned a lot from all the posts.

Sam

Am sorry to see you go.

Am sorry to see you go. Maybe the downtime and the move will make you feel less stressed.

Fingers crossed...

...that your prediction comes true, Estella. Thanks for your good wishes - straight back at you for 2008!

Good luck!

Best of luck to you in your future endeavors. I've never read one of your books, but I hope to soon! :)

Thanks

Thanks Carolynn. Have a feeling I will need all the luck I can get over the next few months. Finding a house to live, finding a new car, getting settled in a new country... At least I have some lovely friends in NZ that I can get reacquainted with.

Godspeed

Hey Sarah,
Many of us readers will miss you. I always hear that New Zealand is beautiful, so your new home will probably inspire your writing. Good luck with everything.

WOO Sarah!

Who's been nominated by RT as having one of the best Blazes for 2007??? Hmmmm?

YOU! For All Over You -- Richly deserved!

Sam

really?

Good lord, I never win anything! So I won't hold my breath. But how nice just to be nominated - exactly the shot in the arm I need as I've just heard from my data recovery guy that the lost portion of my book is likely to remain that way. Bummer. So, I'm about to start rewriting. Nothing like good news to get the juices flowing. Thanks, Sammas, for the heads up. And thanks to anyone who nominated me, however that works.

Sweet!!

Congrats, Sarah, and as Sam said, so well-deserved!!

So sorry that part of the book remains in the ether... May the words flow anew now!

good luck int he future.

good luck int he future.

good luck...

...to you, too, Kim, and thanks for your best wishes.

Best of luck, Sarah...

You've gotta do what you've gotta do and as long as that includes writing more of your fabulous stories, we'll forgive ya! :)

This seems like a good time to tell you how much I enjoyed the three books I won from you awhile back. I loved the Diva series and I didn't think it was possible for me to love a book more than Hot For Him in particular, but Anything For You has completely won my heart. I was crying by page 20 and I didn't stop until well after I turned the last page. That story is now my all-time favorite Blaze! I'm waiting on pins and needles here for another from you because there is just something about the way you write that gets me--I absolutely LOVE your work.

Again, best of luck on your endeavors!*hugs*

Shucks...

Thanks Sassa. What a nice thing to say. You know, Anything For You is still one of my favourite books. It kind of just fell out of the typewriter and onto the page - the story had obviously been in the back of my head, waiting to be released. My latest book - the one I've lost 30,000 words of the 50,000 I'd written thanks to a computer glitch - is about best friends falling in love, too. This time, it's the man who's always loved the woman, and the woman who has no idea. It's been an interesting experience, and it's about to get more interesting thanks to having to rewrite those 30,000 #*&%!!! words. Oh well! Thanks again for your kind words - they mean a lot.

Hi Sarah - I'm sad to just

Hi Sarah -
I'm sad to just be reading this now... but good luck to you in this new year! I understand how life is crazy and can take over things. Apparently I've been subscribed for nearly a year, but thought I just discovered the site today. (That's bad!) I've read your newer books and absolutely love them. I'm definitely looking forward to any future books you write!
Happy New Year!

LOL

Sounds like you need to come join us on Dee's crazy thread... ;) I just posted about something in this vein...
LOL

Sam