Too Old for (Eye) Candy?
I was sitting here this morning, admiring the view from my sunroom window and wondering whose turn it was to post on Cigars today, then realized it was mine! So...sorry for the delay! They say the mind is the first thing to go...
With no other thoughts in my head right now, I need to tell you about the view from my sunroom. Normally, it's one of water and seagulls and the occasional cormorant. But today, if I angle myself just so, my view is one of six young men in T-shirts and jeans, hauling rocks and swinging pick-axes.
They're part of a stonework company that builds walls, walkways, and steps, and they've been working on a neighbor's house down the street for the past several weeks. They finished that job (it really looks great) and the neighbor who lives directly across the street from me liked the finished product so much, that he hired the crew to rebuild his front walkway and steps.
When I came home from work yesterday, their trucks and equipment were parked directly in front of my house, and the sound of their jack-hammers drowned out all other noise. It was warm yesterday, relatively speaking. Except for the two guys hauling stone, the other four stripped down to their jeans and worked shirtless. I found myself wandering into the front yard to check the mailbox, then again to inspect my flower beds, and yet again to pick up real and imagined bits of debris left over from the winter. When I couldn't invent any more reasons to venture outside, I gave up all pretenses and parked myself in the sunroom with a pair of opera glasses. Yes, they were that gorgeous.
When my husband walked in and caught me, he just shook his head and laughed, and asked when I was going to grow up. At that moment, I probably did resemble my 14-year old daughter more than I did a 44-year old mother of two. But it got me to thinking...is there ever a time to stop admiring handsome men? Am I too old to look? Should I not be looking? I mean, these men were in their late 20's...they weren't the same age as my kids (that would be creepy). They were old enough that my daughter had no interest in them, even with their all their bare muscles gleaming in the sunlight.
So today, I am determined not to look. I can hear their pick-axes and I can hear them talking, but I will not look. I will sit in the sunroom and focus on my laptop. At least until it's time to get the male...er, mail!
The Sure Cure
I became somewhat pre-conditioned to not finding younger men attractive through my teaching years -- you develop a part of your brain that simply says "Under Thirty=Student," regardless if they actually are students or not. And students, being generally pains in the backside, are not all that sexy, especially when they think they are and that they can bat pretty eyes at you to try to get out of trouble. LOL
If you really want to cure your problem, go over and talk to them -- five minutes or so of talking to a twenty-something should kill the attraction, LOL. I know, I'm bad. Then again, why ruin the fantasy?
But I get your dilemma from a more distant vantage point, as my most recent celebrity crush is 28, the youngest of any celebrity I've ever found attractive, and it's disconcerting because then he is only 4 years older than my son... However, I've arrived at the conclusion that it's his smart, edgy characters that I really like (one of whom is a vampire several centuries old), because when I read his online interviews the are full of "wow" "man" "dude" "awesome" -- LOL... or you know, that general kind of tone. I had to stop reading anything about him online and just focus on who he is on the screen, LOL.
So maybe don't talk to them, if you want to keep enjoying the view... LOL
Sam
I found out these guys are
I found out these guys are from Brazil. I didn't talk to them, but to the woman whose house they're working on, while we were standing at the bus stop, both of us trying really hard not to stare. She admitted it was her idea to hire them, LOL. So...they're from Brazil, they're most likely illegals, and once they make enough money, they're heading back to Brazil.
On an interesting note, I have a coworker who is 44, and he's dating a 25-year old woman and, according to him, they're really hitting it off. My former babysitter is now 25 and still keeps in close touch with us. While she's drop-dead gorgeous, my husband just rolls his eyes after she leaves and says he can hold a conversation with her for about 2 minutes before he feels as if he's entered an alternate universe.
Woman of Steel
You're not going to look? I don't have that kind of will power. Believe me. I've tried.
As to age differences, the 9 years between my husband and I has never mattered, but he says I'm the first younger woman he dated who didn't bore him when she talked. I know two couples where the husband is 26 years older than the wife. One has been married for 34 years. The other over 20 years. When it's right, it's right. It's just a matter of figuring out when it's right, lol.
As to the looking - go for
As to the looking - go for it, you're never too old for that. Now if you think they would want to look back at you...ahh probably not lol but then you never know for sure and it's all about fantasy I say.
My 21 year old daughter has been dating a now 35 year old for two years. It's not my first choice but hard as I tried, I can't dislike the guy lol. They have a lot in common and get along so well so I have decided not to worry about way down the road.
Reflections
It's strange, because in many ways I still feel like I did in my 20's...then I look in the mirror and think, "Who is that??" But when I look at my friends from high school, I think they still look the same. And when we get together as a group, they still act the same, LOL!!
I have a good friend who married a man 24 years her senior. He was older than my father, and I remember being a little horrified. But she was always more mature than the rest of us, and he was this cute Paul Newman look-alike. They've been married about 20 years, and I really think she and their two kids keep him young.
I am old---not dead!
I am old---not dead!
Never!
Never too old to look, right? I think I'd start to feel strange if as time goes on, it starts overlapping with guys the same ages as my kids. (Squick?) And as Sam says, I imagine it's really all about the visuals as adding the audio track is likely to blow the fantasy to bits ;)
And wow, you do have willpower!! I'm not sure I wouldn't be sitting by my mailbox, waiting for the mail truck to come along...
Well, they packed up pretty
Well, they packed up pretty early today and went home because of the rain. Not much to see except slickers. But my husband was talking to the neighbors on our other side, and they've also decided to hire these guys to do their steps, so...oh, joy...another week or so of eye candy. Good thing I'm back to work on Monday!
Call In SICK!!!!
It's not a lie, exactly. You're feverish, aren't you? LOL!
Boy, I needed that giggle today. I'd totally be watching.
Then again, the one time we had that situation at a place where I lived, I couldn't see the guy's faces. Just the bodies. Around mid day, this REALLY hot guy in black jeans walks over and as I'm checking out the free show, I'm chatting in a chat room, going on about this sexy guy. Well, I look over, hot guy gone. Bummer.
Until the front door opens and I realize the guy I was ogling was my husband, who came home to surprise me for lunch.
Once I stopped swallowing my tongue, I decided ogling is NEVER a bad idea. :)
Dee
Oh, Dee, that's a funny
Oh, Dee, that's a funny story! My husband is a builder, and when he's not working, he's always outside in the yard. Last spring, he parked his boat in our driveway while he rebuilt the interior. Usually, the guys in the neighborhood stop to chat him up about whatever project he's working on (he always has several going, LOL), but I'll never forget this one day when I pulled into the driveway to find him standing on the deck of that boat, no shirt, jeans and tool belt hanging kinda low, his baseball cap on backwards, and these three women standing on the sidewalk below him, totally chatting him up!! Now I know they weren't interested in the boat! It was one definitely one of those "Aha!" moments for me.
Eye Candy
Hey you are never to old for eye candy. I am older then you and believe me when I say I would look. If I was at your house I wouldn't get anything done. It never hurts anything to look. Just enjoy your view while you have it.
Oh, thank you!! Yes...I
Oh, thank you!! Yes...I think I will. I remember a couple of years ago, when it was late March and there was still a little bit of ice clinging to the edges of the riverbanks. My husband came in and handed me the binoculars, and pointed to the opposite shore of the river. So I looked...and looked...there were three young men standing on the opposite banking, and one of them had stripped butt naked and (on a dare, I suspect) plunged into those icy waters, and came out dripping wet. And I saw the whole thing! I guess if DH didn't mind my looking at that, he won't mind me ogling the stoneworkers!
Never too old to look....
I was out for lunch with my hub today and stood in line behind a very, very fine, tight, jeans-clad butt...that belonged to a teenage boy. He was sweet, thoughtful, vegetarian, and treating me like his mother, which I am old enough to be, if I'd started far younger than I did, LOL. Still...nice butt, and I'm not too old to appreciate a door held for me (although the "ma'am" did give me pause...and make my husband laugh out loud).