The other day, hubby and I were at a restaurant and we were at our usual impasse. "So, do you need anything else?"

It's the question he always asks right before he sits down and he won't sit down if I don't have absolute surety on my face. (I know, isn't he awesome?) Problem is, I think things through carefully before answering, which he takes as a sign that I'm debating whether or not I want something or actually need something, a quality to my personality that drives him ever so slightly batty.

So it was as he hovered that I learned something new and fascinating about my husband. A piece of his personality clicked into place in my understanding, so much so that I practically heard the sound in my head. I've been with this man longer than I was ever by myself, so I really thought I understood him just fine already, but here I was, clicking anyway.

By the way, he did get to sit down. Eventually.

So, here's the thing I realized. My husband is a man of Contingencies. He plans things out, tries to anticipate every possibility and needs to be ready for it. Like, if we're going to a party, he's positive that he needs to stop at the store and bring everything that would be AT the party, just in case. He grew up preparing for when he'd be an adult who could finally take care of things himself.

Me, I'm a woman of Necessity. I'm pretty ruthless at deciding whether I need something or if it's just a luxury I can do without. I weigh my needs against the needs of others. Since I can only decide my own sacrifices, sometimes this does mean I get the short end of the stick. I make him a little crazy because I consider food, sleep and time to be commodities that are tradeable or improper to assume I can take from anyone else. I grew up already living like an adult.

You'd think this would make us pretty alike, but you'd be surprised how pragmatism and contingencies are often complete opposites. And that's just not the dynamic I thought we had. This new light, though was really interesting. I started looking at other couples, even tv couples, and inspecting their dynamic and I admit, in my usual OCD way, I went all Chaos theory about it, looking for patterns.

This all fit really well to romance hooks, particularly category. The Bad boy and the good girl (or vice versa.), The poor office girl and the entitled CEO. The vengeful lover and the innocent virgin in his way. The athlete and the librarian. Which led to my new favorite game, which I'm gonna share with you.

What's your combo? If you were going to describe your relationship in terms of a romance hook, which would you be?

Me and hubby? Oh, we're definitely the CEO & The Office Girl--he might be able to see important trends and business and have this way of always being right, being ready to take on the world and fix it...but the man can't tie his shoes (or FIND them for that matter) without me. ;)